Baby, don't drive you away

It's often said in hushed tones: "Since we had a baby, we've drifted apart a bit."
As if the arrival of a child automatically creates distance in the couple.

For a long time, I believed that too.

I thought that if we weren't really together as a couple anymore, it was because of a lack of time. A lack of energy. A lack of support. The fact that we weren't going out as much anymore. That everything revolved around the baby's schedule.

And then I realized something a little while ago.

It's not the baby that's driving us apart.
It is the absence of intention.

It's not a question of time

We all have 60 to 90 minutes in the evening, once the house is quiet.
The problem isn't the schedule. It's the reflex.

We sit down. We're tired. We put on Netflix.

And the evening passes.

It's not dramatic. It's not serious. But it's not nourishing either.

It's not a lack of energy that creates distance. It's the absence of a chosen moment.

This is not a relay problem

For years, we waited for the “right moment.” The evening when someone could look after the children. The perfect time to go to a restaurant.

Except that the right moment never came.

Or, when he came, we were too tired. Or stressed. Or preoccupied.

So I stopped waiting.

The decision that changed everything

I decided on one simple thing:
Once a week, we don't turn on Netflix, we put down our phones.

Instead, we have a romantic date at home.

Nothing extraordinary. But intentional.

Introspective activities. Romantic. Fun.

Moments that create new memories. That allow us to talk about things other than logistics. That give us the opportunity to flirt again.

Yes, to flirt again.

Rediscovering ourselves. Surprising ourselves. Challenging ourselves. Laughing together.

In 60 minutes, a real connection can be recreated.

What actually works

These are not grand gestures.

These are the shared experiences:

– games of profound questions
– a challenge undertaken together
– a writing session for two
– a themed evening

When you experience something together, you step out of the role of “mom and dad”.
We become two adults again, choosing each other.

Why I created ready-made templates

I realized there was another obstacle: the mental load.

Even when you want to organize a moment for two, you have to think about what to do.
Prepare.
Imagine.
Structure.

So I decided to create templates that can be downloaded with one click.

Turnkey evenings.
Ready to print.
Fluid. Structured. Immersive.

So that other parents can also reconnect without the mental burden of relaying, restaurant, and organization.

Baby, don't drive you away.

It transforms your daily life, yes.
It tires you out sometimes.
He is asking a lot of you.

But the connection in your relationship does not depend on the number of times you go out.
It depends on the moments you choose to create.

And sometimes, it all starts simply with not turning on the TV. 🤍